The Invisible Workload of Motherhood: Why Moms Need a Break

Motherhood is a beautiful journey, but let’s be honest, it comes with an invisible workload that often goes unrecognized. As moms, we carry the weight of daily responsibilities, both seen and unseen, whether we work outside the home, stay at home full-time, or juggle running a business while managing household duties.

I remember my days in the corporate world, working long hours only to come home and shift into "mom mode." But not before sitting in my car for at least 30 minutes after a long commute—just decompressing, mentally preparing for the next shift. Any mom who has ever pulled into her driveway and just sat there knows exactly what I’m talking about. It’s a universal experience! Most weekday evenings consisted of helping with homework, cooking dinner, tidying up, getting the kids ready for bed, being a wife, and so much more.  Despite this busy schedule, I still tried to carve out a moment for myself, even if it meant staying up a little later and regretting it the next morning when it was time to wake up and start the day all over again. 

When I became a stay-at-home mom, I quickly realized the invisible workload didn’t go away. Instead, it just took on a different form, prioritizing the kids, scheduling doctor’s appointments, and after-school activities, keeping the house in order, preparing meals, bedtime routines (that change frequently), and everything in between. Now, as a mom running a full-time business from home with a toddler at home, the juggle is even more complex. Balancing work calls, virtual meetings, deadlines, and keeping my little one occupied requires a level of multitasking that feels like an Olympic sport. And yes, even now, I still find myself sitting in the car, only now it’s with an iced coffee, enjoying the pure bliss of silence for just a few stolen moments.

So, do moms need a break? Absolutely! Just like every other human being, moms need and deserve time to recharge. Unfortunately, it’s easy to get so caught up in the daily grind that we don’t even recognize when we’re running on empty. But taking a break isn’t a luxury it’s absolutely necessary! 

Stepping away, even for a short time, isn’t selfish—it’s essential for our well-being and our families. Here’s why:

• You regain your patience. When you’re constantly overwhelmed, it’s easy to feel irritable and short-tempered. A break helps you reset.
• You remember who you are. Motherhood is part of your identity, but it’s not your entire identity. Taking time for yourself allows you to reconnect with your own needs, dreams, and passions.
• You relieve stress. The daily demands of motherhood can leave you mentally and physically exhausted. A break helps you recharge and refocus.
• You return refreshed. Stepping away gives you the energy and clarity to handle the challenges of everyday life more effectively.
• You get to reconnect with friends. Whether it’s a lunch date, a weekend getaway, or just an uninterrupted phone call, spending time with friends can be incredibly rejuvenating.
• You prevent burnout. Regular mom breaks help prevent exhaustion and feelings of being overwhelmed, allowing you to be a more present and joyful parent.
• Your family benefits, too. If you have a partner, your kids get more quality time with them. If they’re with another family member, they get to experience different connections and relationships. It’s a win-win for everyone!

Moms, it’s time to recognize when you’re running on empty. Pay attention to the signs, of feeling constantly irritable, exhausted, or emotionally drained. Give yourself permission to step away, whether it’s a solo coffee break, a weekend with your girlfriends, or even just an hour of uninterrupted time to do something that brings you joy.

Remember, a burnt-out mother isn’t beneficial for anyone. Prioritizing yourself isn’t selfish it’s necessary. Taking a mom break doesn’t mean you love your family any less; it means you love them enough to show up as your best self. So go ahead, and schedule that break you deserve it!