As a mom, the postpartum journey is a whirlwind of emotions, adjustments, and new experiences. Amidst the joy of welcoming a precious little one into the world, it's easy to lose sight of our own needs amidst the demands of caring for a newborn. In this blog post, I want to share my journey and the importance of mindfulness, mental wellness, and self-care during the postpartum period, offering insights and practical tips for my fellow moms navigating the fourth trimester.
Embracing Mindfulness:
Mindfulness has been a lifeline for me during the postpartum journey. Taking moments to pause, breathe, and fully immerse myself in the present has helped me find calm amidst the chaos. Whether it's savoring the quiet moments with my baby, practicing mindful breathing during late-night feedings, or simply noticing the beauty in everyday moments, mindfulness has helped me cultivate a sense of peace and presence during this precious time. If you need some guidance on getting centered, I highly recommend the Mindful Mamas app. This app will forever remain on my phone!
Prioritizing Mental Wellness:
Mental wellness is essential for new moms, yet it's often overlooked in the midst of caring for a newborn. I've learned the importance of prioritizing my mental health, whether it's through journaling my thoughts and feelings, seeking support from loved ones, or practicing mindfulness meditation. Taking time to check in with myself, honor my emotions, and seek support when needed has been crucial in maintaining my mental wellness during the postpartum journey.
The Power of Self-Care:
Self-care isn't selfish – it's necessary for our well-being as moms. Making time for self-care activities that nourish our mind, body, and spirit is essential for maintaining balance and resilience during the postpartum period. Whether it's taking a hot bath, going for a walk, or simply enjoying a cup of coffee/tea in silence, or if your anything like me (sit in your car before going into the house) finding moments of self-care amidst the busyness of motherhood is vital for our overall well-being.
Finding Support: Navigating the postpartum journey can feel overwhelming at times, so it's important to lean on our support systems for help and guidance. Whether it's our partners, family members, or fellow moms, surrounding ourselves with a supportive community can make all the difference. The Postpartum Support International offers over 50+ free virtual support groups for moms and their families. Remember, you're not alone, and asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
The postpartum journey is a time of immense change, growth, and transformation for new moms. By embracing mindfulness, prioritizing mental wellness, and practicing self-care, we can navigate this journey with greater ease, grace, and resilience. Remember, you are worthy of love, support, and self-care every step of the way. Embrace the journey and remember to nurture yourself as you nurture your precious little one.
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As I sit down to reflect on my journey through motherhood, I can't help but marvel at how much has changed since welcoming my little one into the world. The postpartum period was undoubtedly one of the most challenging times of my life. From sleepless nights to endless diaper changes, it felt like I was navigating uncharted territory with each passing day. But amidst the chaos and exhaustion, there was a quiet resilience growing within me—a determination to find my footing and rediscover myself amidst the whirlwind of motherhood.
Now, two years later, I'm thrilled to say that I'm finally starting to feel like myself again. It's as if I've entered a new era of my life—a bloom era, if you will. I've found my groove, and it feels amazing.
One of the most significant challenges during the postpartum journey was maintaining a sense of identity amid the demands of motherhood. As my days revolved around feedings, naps, and diaper changes, I often felt like I had lost touch with the person I used to be. But gradually, as my little one grew and became more independent, I began to reclaim pieces of myself that had been set aside during those early months.
My style has evolved, reflecting the newfound confidence and strength I've gained through motherhood. I've traded in my pre-baby wardrobe for pieces that are both practical and chic, embracing a more relaxed and effortless aesthetic. And while my interests may have shifted, I've discovered a whole new world of hobbies and activities that bring me joy and fulfillment.
From morning meditation to starting my day with Grow with Jo workouts, I've embraced opportunities to explore new passions and nurture my own well-being. Each day brings with it a sense of excitement and possibility—a chance to discover something new about myself and the world around me.
But perhaps the most rewarding part of this journey has been the realization that I am capable of more than I ever imagined. Motherhood has pushed me to my limits and challenged me in ways I never thought possible. And yet, through it all, I've emerged stronger, more resilient, and more confident in my abilities as a woman, mother, and business owner.
As I look ahead to the future, I'm filled with a sense of optimism and excitement for what lies ahead. The bloom era is just beginning, and I can't wait to see where this journey takes me. But for now, I'm content to savor this moment—to revel in the joy of rediscovering myself and embracing the incredible woman I've become.
So, here's to the postpartum journey—to the challenges, the triumphs, and everything in between. And here's to finding our groove, embracing our bloom, and celebrating the beautiful journey of motherhood in all its messy, wonderful glory.
Bringing new life into the world is undoubtedly one of the most beautiful and transformative experiences a person can go through. However, amidst the joy and wonder of parenthood, it's crucial not to overlook the importance of self-love and self-care, especially during the delicate postpartum period and beyond. As moms, we often find ourselves pouring all our love and energy into our little ones, sometimes neglecting our own well-being in the process.
The postpartum period is a time of immense change, physically, emotionally, and mentally. Your body has just gone through a monumental task, and it needs time to heal and recover. Emotionally, you may be experiencing a whirlwind of feelings, from joy and fulfillment to exhaustion and overwhelm. It's during this time that practicing self-love becomes not just important but essential.
Here are a few ways you can practice self-love:
Prioritize Rest: Sleep deprivation is a common challenge for new parents, but getting adequate rest is crucial for your physical and mental health. Enlist the help of your partner, family, or friends to take turns caring for the baby so you can get some much-needed rest.
Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. Remember, you're doing the best you can in a challenging and demanding role. Acknowledge your efforts and celebrate small victories, no matter how insignificant they may seem.
Carve Out "Me" Time: Even in the midst of caring for a newborn, it's essential to carve out time for yourself. Whether it's taking a relaxing bath, going for a walk, or indulging in a hobby you love, make time for activities that replenish your spirit.
Seek Support: Don't hesitate to reach out for support when you need it. Whether it's talking to a trusted friend or joining a new parent support group, surrounding yourself with understanding and empathetic individuals can make a world of difference.
In the journey of parenthood, it's easy to get caught up in the needs of your little one and neglect your own. However, practicing self-love and pouring into yourself is not selfish; it's essential for your well-being and the well-being of your family. By prioritizing self-care postpartum and beyond, you're not only nurturing yourself but also setting a strong foundation for a healthy and fulfilling life for you and your child. Remember, you deserve love and care just as much as anyone else.
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1. Set Realistic Expectations:
Acknowledge that this holiday season might be different from previous ones. Set realistic expectations for yourself and your family. It's okay to scale back on elaborate plans and focus on creating meaningful, low-stress celebrations.
2. Delegate and Seek Support:
Don't be afraid to ask for help. Enlist support from your partner, family, and friends. Delegating tasks, whether it's decorating, cooking, or running errands, can alleviate some of the stress and allow you to focus on bonding with your baby.
3. Prioritize Self-Care:
Carve out time for self-care amidst the holiday hustle. Whether it's a warm bath, a short nap, or a quiet moment with a cup of tea, taking care of yourself is essential. Remember that a well-rested and nurtured mother is better equipped to care for her baby.
4. Create Boundaries:
Set clear boundaries with visitors and social commitments. It's perfectly acceptable to decline invitations or limit the duration of visits to ensure you have ample time to rest and recharge. Prioritize the needs of your family and communicate your boundaries with compassion.
5. Embrace Simplicity:
Simplify your holiday traditions and celebrations. Choose a few meaningful activities or traditions that bring joy without overwhelming your schedule. Remember, the most cherished memories often come from simple, heartfelt moments.
6. Schedule "Me Time":
Block out specific time in your schedule dedicated to self-care. Whether it's a brief walk, reading a book, or practicing mindfulness, having designated "me time" ensures that you prioritize your well-being amid the holiday rush.
7. Connect with Other Mothers:
Reach out to fellow mothers who may be experiencing similar challenges. Sharing your experiences and tips with others can provide a sense of camaraderie and support. Online communities, local parenting groups, or even a simple chat with a friend can be immensely comforting.
8. Celebrate Milestones, Big and Small:
Take a moment to celebrate the milestones, both for yourself and your baby. Whether it's the first holiday as a family or your baby's first smile, acknowledging these moments can bring a sense of joy and fulfillment.
Remember, the essence of the holiday season lies in love, connection, and gratitude. By prioritizing self-care and making conscious choices that align with your well-being and that of your family, you can navigate postpartum during the holidays with grace and joy.
Every parent looks forward to the day when their baby starts sleeping through the night. However, just when you think you've got it all figured out, baby sleep regression can throw a curveball. Baby sleep regression refers to a period when a previously good sleeper suddenly starts waking up frequently during the night or having trouble falling asleep. It can be frustrating and exhausting for both baby and parents. But don't worry, in this article, we will guide you on how to navigate baby sleep regression!
It's important to understand that baby sleep regression is a normal part of their development. It typically occurs at various stages, such as around 4 months, 8 months, and 18 months. During these times, the baby's sleep patterns undergo significant changes as they reach developmental milestones.
Some common signs of sleep regression include increased night waking, difficulty settling at bedtime, shorter naps, and overall fussiness. While it can be challenging, it's crucial to remember that it is temporary and will pass with time.
Baby sleep regression can be a challenging time for parents, but it's important to remember that it is a temporary phase. By understanding the causes and implementing the tips mentioned above, you can navigate this period with more confidence. Remember to take care of yourself too, as a well-rested parent is better equipped to handle the challenges. Soon enough, you and your baby will be back to enjoying peaceful nights of restful sleep!
]]>Welcoming a new baby into the world is a joyous and exciting time for parents. However, it's also a period filled with sleepless nights and exhaustion. While it's normal for new parents to experience sleep disruptions, some mothers may develop a condition known as postpartum insomnia.
Postpartum insomnia is a sleep disorder that affects new mothers during the weeks and months following childbirth. It is characterized by difficulty falling asleep, staying asleep, or both. This condition can significantly impact a mother's physical and emotional well-being.
Postpartum insomnia can be caused by a combination of physical, hormonal, and psychological factors:
While postpartum insomnia can be challenging, there are strategies that can help improve sleep quality:
Postpartum insomnia is a common sleep disorder that affects many new mothers. It's essential to understand the causes and symptoms of this condition in order to effectively manage it. By implementing healthy sleep habits and seeking support when needed, new mothers can improve their sleep quality and overall well-being during the postpartum period.
]]>This photo was taken 8 years ago. I had just given birth to my son at 37 weeks after my doctor insisted I be induced due to the baby measuring at 10lbs 3oz. I was considered high risk due to high blood pressure and being over the age of 35. My labor progressed faster than expected (in less than 3 hrs), so there was no time for an epidural. My nurse was new in labor and delivery and was attending to another patient at the time when I felt that feeling that it was time to push. I told my husband to call the nurse! When the nurse returned, I told her I needed to push. She said, "You can't be fully dilated already.” She examined me and her eyes widened. The nurse called in another nurse to check. The second nurse checks and says, “She’s 10 centimeters page her doctor.”
My doctor was at his office when my nurse called. I heard him on the phone asking my nurse, “If I don't make it in time can you deliver her baby?” The panic in her eyes said it all! Needless to say, my doctor made it in the nick of time. He of course informs me that I’m past the window for an epidural so I’m going to have to push this 10lb baby out unmedicated. I said a quick prayer and gave my best three pushes and within 30 minutes, I was holding my 9lb baby. 😒 It was in no way the birth plan I had in mind, but at that moment I was so thankful to be holding my baby in my arms.
I thought my birth experience was traumatic, but I never imagined that my postpartum recovery would be the most painful experience of my life. Fast forward to my 6-week check-up, I was still in pain so bad I could not sit comfortably as I waited for my doctor to see me. When I expressed my concern he said: "Oh, it's perfectly normal, sometimes it takes moms longer to heal, but in the meantime, I could return to normal activities.”😳
Fast forward, I'm now three months postpartum and still in pain. I knew this was not normal. I went back to the doctor, and after examining me, he realized the incision he had to make last minute to get my baby out had healed improperly. Just a quick note no one informed me of this incision and or if there was anything additional I needed to do at home to treat it. So my doctor goes on to say he would have to schedule me for corrective surgery, and that could be a whole process, and I may have to wait longer. He then says, or we can cauterize the wound now, and you will feel instant pain relief. He said you pushed a 9lb baby out with no pain meds, you can handle a little temporary pain. Reluctantly I went ahead with the in-office procedure, and yes, it was still painful as I lay there with tears in my eyes.
I walked out of the office pain free but still felt very defeated. So many questions ran through my mind. What if my doctor had listened to me the first time when I knew something was wrong? What if I had been informed of the incision before I was discharged from the hospital? Maybe I could have prevented it. Should I have opted for the corrective surgery? During my labor and postpartum, my voice was repeatedly silenced. I was ignored. Today I know now it's so important to advocate for yourself because as a black woman, I truly felt my voice was not heard.
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Marsha Stephanson
Founder, Cater to Mom
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Breastfeeding is the most natural way to provide your baby with the best nutrients. It is a special bonding time for mother and baby. I find it unique that our bodies, instantly began to provide for baby, but in providing your baby’s meals, it can sometimes be as much work as cooking a three - course meal. After you have pushed and labored the first thing the nurse says to you is, “Let’s see if we can get the baby to latch”. For me, I figured it would be like what I had seen on television. I would cradle my baby in my arms, she would take my nipple with ease, and the milk would start following.
Absolute lies!! My little one was so impatient, between her little mouth anxiously awaiting, me trying to position myself, and trying to get to my nipple in her mouth the latching process was not so smooth. Time after time with a different hold or position, the process never seemed to get easier. Often times, when she was done feeding trying to get her to unlatch was sometimes harder than prying a can open. My daughter would not let go at times pulling my nipple. I lathered my nipples in cream to provide some relief, but the whole process was still very painful. I honestly felt defeated and I eventually gave up and went to formula feeding. At the end of the day, I honestly felt I was not properly educated on the whole breastfeeding process.
Moms, please take the time to meet with a nurse or Lactation Consultant. Take classes, read books, and as always ask for help. It’s okay for the process of breastfeeding not to feel or come to you naturally. You and your baby have to get in a rhythm. Different techniques might need to be tried before you and your baby are comfortable. Also, don’t forget about pumping. This is an awesome way for your baby still receive the nutrients from your milk without latching and unlatching process. The pumps that are out today make pumping discreet and simple. Of course, another benefit is that dad and anyone else can help with feedings. So yes breastfeeding is great but it can come with blood, sweat, and tears literally, educate yourself to determine what is not only best for baby but what is best for you.
Photo by Nikolai Chernichenko on Unsplash
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